Sex Addicts Anonymous is for those who are addicted to unhealthy sexual behaviors. Members feel powerless against their own thoughts and urges. Despite the many failed attempts to get better and fix their lives, it was hard for them to do it alone. In Sex Addicts Anonymous, men and women come together to learn about healthy sexual behaviors and how to abstain from addictive sexual behaviors.
The requirement of Sex Addicts Anonymous is not for the purpose of being celibate unless that is a personal route you choose to take. The point is to stop one or more specific sexual behaviors that have ruined your life. It is important to determine which behaviors you feel you cannot stop and which have led to negative consequences. S.A.A. feels that acting out is when the sexual acts you commit end up making you feel remorseful, shameful, craving, and empty. This can end up putting you and others at high-risk danger.
Committing sexual acts that are abusive towards others is violating the rights of who you have sex with and under what circumstances. This follows sexual assault, indecent liberties, incest, voyeurism, stalking, and exhibitionalism. This also includes having sex with someone you have power over whether it is with a minor or adult, sex with a patient, or someone impaired or intoxicated. High risk behaviors are the ones that put yourself in danger like unsafe sex, having one night stands, masturbating while driving, sex in public, or having sex with dangerous people. Committing any of these acts can cause the risk of blackmail, disease, injury, arrest or death.
Sex Addicts Anonymous has their own method of recovery called The Three Circles. The Inner Circle is where you write about your compulsive sexual behaviors that you know you need to stop yourself doing. This is an opportunity to think of restrictive boundaries to prevent yourself from acting out. The Middle Circle is where you write about the sexual behaviors that you are not sure are unhealthy. It is important to talk to your sponsor or other members about clarification of those behaviors so that they do not go in The Inner Circle. The Outer Circle is the behaviors that keep you engage with people and reality in a healthy way. Following the fellowship’s twelve steps, these important guidelines and knowing these terms will help those with sex addiction to a full recovery.